Send your love out in the world

Send your love out in the world

Think about all the people in the world. Think about how much some suffer.  Those with broken hearts. Those with no families and no one to love. Those who can’t reach out because there is no one to reach out to.  Reach out to them now by sending them your love. Let your heart fill with compassion. Let your heart fill with gratitude for all you have and send your love out to the world.

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Feel your love touching someone’s heart who is in pain and hurting right

now. Breathe out your blessings. Breathe them into the air. Feel your blessings touch heart, after heart, and soul after soul.

Love yourself.

Let your love touch those you love, accepting them for who they are.

Send your love out in the world.

Feel it touching heart after heart.

 

The above is an excerpt from Omtopia (The Seven Steps to Enlightenment)

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Who says you’re fat and ugly!!! Tell them to…

Health-Quotes-10So he just said ‘You’re fat and ugly.’…. Is that what you really believe about yourself?  If you are fat, be happy about  it or do something about it. If you feel ugly do something about it. But above all, raise your opinion of yourself.

 So she just said ‘You’ll amount to nothing.’….. Is that what you believe? You are the only one standing in your way so raise your opinion of yourself.

 ‘He just said’ and ‘She just said’ are of no importance. They are other peoples’ opinions which in effect mean nothing.

You have to make your mind up that you’re special before you can be treated as though you are.

You have to decide you’re worth millions and start acting like a millionaire to receive. But more than this you have to respect yourself.

Respect equals high self-esteem and when you respect yourself, life’s blows won’t affect you so negatively. You KNOW you’re  as good as the next and will fight for your corner instead of backing off. You’ll brush off insults as though they were irritating fleas and won’t give a fig for other people’s opinions. 

Make up your mind this second that you’re special and keep saying it until you convince yourself.

 

The above is an excerpt from Omtopia (The seven steps to enlightenment)     @jaylengrace    www.jaylengrace.com

Jaylen Grace is also the author of Omzak The Space Cat Warrior and Porridge The Two Faced Parrot (shortlisted for funny writer 2012 award)

 

 

Don’t believe anyone who says they’re enlightened.

Don’t believe anyone who says they’re enlightened.

When I was younger, the one thing I yearned for more than anything was to be able to channel my thoughts so that I could experience what Sankara called ‘non duality’ of mind. To gain knowledge in this field I lived as a sanyasin for extended periods in India, lived with the Cofis (a Native American Indian tribe) in the Amazon, took lessons from a Taoist community in China and sat at the feet of some of the world’s greatest spiritual teachers.

On the way I occasionally managed to slide into non duality mode – sometimes for fairly long periods. Then something would happen that made mincemeat of my mind and I was reminded of how easy it was to lose sight of the path.

A beloved teacher once said to me ‘Even a Buddha or Christ would have a great challenge to stay in a permanent state of enlightenment. It is something few human beings achieve.’

Having studied the world of chakras for over thirty years, I now fully understand what my teacher meant, because to stay permanently at the lofty height of enlightenment means that all five lower chakras have to vibrate in synchronised harmony and stay that way 24/7.   Four out of five isn’t enough and look what awaits us to successfully juggle in the lower world of chakras:

In the first chakra (Muladhara/root) which represents the world of Me and I, we are constantly tested to prove how much we like, love, trust and respect ourselves.

In the second chakra (Swadisthana/spleen), we have the world of relationships to keep afloat in loving harmony and are tested on how well we resolve family/partner/friend issues.

In the third chakra (Manipura/solar plexus) we are tested on whether we finish what we start (without falling apart!) and whether we live in equal balance with our spiritual and physical bodies.

In the fourth chakra, (Anahata, heart), we are tested on whether we show every day loving kindness and compassion to all and sundry.

In the fifth chakra, (Vishudda/throat) –it becomes obvious how well we have done in the four lower chakras because this is heard in our voice.  Our test here is to keep our voice harmoniously pitched even when speaking our truth (i.e when constructively criticizing another or sharing angry feelings). We are also expected to refrain from using harmful, hostile words or show any reflection of intolerance or reproach in our eyes.

Assuming, we have managed to juggle these five chakras successfully over a fair period of time, the purified, harmonised energy travels upwards into the sixth chakra (Ajna/third eye). This activates and opens the seventh chakra (Samashara/crown).

You might have thought that once you’d arrived at this ‘halleluyah moment’ it would be easy to keep the chakra wheels turning -  but – NO – the third eye can shut down in a flash at the first sign of arrogance or conceit..

I know we have all experienced glorious days and weeks when we are master jugglers. Then someone insults us, lies, steals from us or treats us unfairly and chakras down the line wobble out of harmony.  It’s frustrating enough that we have to start over but what makes it worse is that the monster that lives inside us (known to the world as EGO), loves nothing more than when we slip from grace because as busy as we are trying to bring our chakra lessons into balance, Ego’s as busy trying to upset the apple cart.  Ego could be described as the bouncer who stands outside each chakra, doing its best not to let us in because if we did reach enlightenment and stay there, Ego would be out of a job.  Every time we sink back into insecurity, become fearful, dislike ourselves or fall apart, ego takes its opportunity to torment us with our weaknesses.  It’s like a pesky leech and the only way to get its clingy suckers off us is to consciously challenge it to stay away every day.Juggler

Every morning I visualise myself drowning ego in a bucket of vinegar and throwing its carcass to the wind.  I then call on ‘higher minds’ assistance to steer me through the day by using an affirmationjuggle like this one: ‘Today I successfully juggle my lower five chakras through any challenges that might await. I approach everything with love, humour and grace and express this through my voice and in my body language.  Thank you higher mind for staying around to prod me if it looks like I’m steering off course’.

Before I go to bed I take my notepad and jot down how well (or not!) I did in each of the five lower chakras and how I intend to better my performance in any chakras that showed weakness the following day.

Some days you’ll find will prove real ‘halleluyah’ days…others will have you jumping up and down on ego’s fat butt!  However, the longer you keep up the above practise, the more glory days you’ll have so give those chakras a spin now to get them started and…

Happy Juggling.

Jaylen Grace is the author of Omtopia (The seven steps to enlightenment)   jaylengrace.com    @jaylengrace

 

 

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like a failure

Don’t ever let anyone make you feel like a failure

Did you know that a recent study revealed that on average parents criticise their children 8 times for every one time they were praised? Did you know that research has shown that by the age of 14, 93% of children have a negative self-image because of their parent’s anxiety they won’t do well in life? No wonder so many adults prefer to live life half-asleep when they’ve been made to feel such failures as children!

 

In my work, I deal with loads of adults who have a negative self-image. They really believe that they are nothing special and say things like ‘Who am I to be brilliant, talented and successful’.  My reply is, ‘WHO ARE YOU NOT TO BE? You are a child of the universe. Get back in touch with your power. Playing small doesn’t help you or anyone’.

 The thing that holds most people back is their fear of failure but I believe that feeling we’re a failure or success is a matter of whether our attitude is negative or positive. Many things have turned prickly in my life but I’ve got so used to sucking lemons, any bitterness is soon swallowed as I dust myself off to face my next learning curve.

I also find strength from men like Thomas Edison – the man who invented the electric light bulb. After his 700th unsuccessful attempt to invent it he was asked by a journalist of the New York Times – so how does it feel to have failed 700 times? Edison replied ‘I haven’t failed once. I have succeeding in finding 700 ways that don’t work and when I’ve picked out the remaining ways that aren’t right, I’ll eventually arrive at the winning one’.

Now there was a man who certainly was not half asleep…

 I know that when you feel stuck, the thought of trying something for the twentieth time is far from easy – However, you could hit the jackpot with just that one more  push so don’t waste too much time pondering on whether to go ahead. As Henry Ford said ‘You can’t build a reputation on what you’re going to do. You’ve got to fantasize, rehearse and go out into the world and DO IT’.

 It is a fact we can get the mind to believe Health-Quotes-10images (1)anything to either spur us on or stab us in the back. The famous psychologist Abraham Maslow, told this story about how our belief systems can literally kill us off. A client believed he was dead. He’d had a heart attack and survived but couldn’t accept his survival as the truth. The psychologist tried everything to convince him but nothing worked so one day he said to the client. ‘Tell me something, do you believe corpses bleed?’ 

‘Of course not!’ huffed the client, ‘when someone dies all their organs stop functioning so blood can no longer be pumped through the system’

‘Ok,’ said the psychologist, ‘I’ll prick your thumb with this needle and we’ll see what happens.’  He pricked the thumb. Blood spurted out.

‘My God’, gasped the client. ’Who would have believed it. Corpses bleed after all!

Funny story but it illustrates the power our minds can have over us.

So back to our goals and whether we’re living life fully awake or half asleep.  I truly believe the world is our oyster and our common mistake as human beings is wanting to see our goals take flight overnight. And talking about flight, here’s a story about a man who decided some years ago that he was going to eat an aeroplane. He cut the aeroplane into bits and ate some every day. It took him twenty months but he succeeded in proving it could be done (some folk have weird goals lol…)

 But what if you choose a goal and four years later you’ve only moved two squares? Well, in his best selling business book ‘Who Moved My Cheese’ (totally recommend it), Spencer Johnson points out this difference between rats and humans… When rats discover something they’re doing isn’t working, they try something new and don’t give up.  When we humans find something isn’t working, we look for someone to blame.

 So – let’s put on our rubber gloves and working boots and even if we have to build our dream brick by brick, let’s not give up until we see the reality of our efforts smiling back…To live life fully awake is a matter of training the mind to believe it has winner potential so let’s choose a winner’s attitude every day.

 Jaylen Grace is the author of Omtopia (The 7 steps to enlightenment), Omzak the Space Cat Warrior and award winning Porridge The Two Faced Parrot.

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How to delete a rubbish mind

As they say ‘it’s all in the mind’ so should you feel that you are one of life’s losers, this no longer need be your reality.  We choose ‘life outcome’ through the quality, or rubbish in our thoughts and whichever proves stronger, produces the ‘reality’ of their bloom.

Maybe you’re not aware of the incredible power you have to turn your dreams into reality. However most dreams are within our reach. If you haven’t turned your dreams into tangible gifts, it’s either because you stopped believing or sent out mixed mind-messages and blocked universal flow.

From this moment, I’d like you to delete your past negative beliefs. Visualise your mind as an empty field in which you are going to plant new positive thought seeds in the earth.  Some seeds, as you’ll witness, will bring fast results. Others will take more time. However if you keep watering your seeds with positive, loving thought input, the universe will honour its side of the bargain and materialise your wants.

You’ve got to keep believing even when others poke fun at you. You’ve got to keep believing even when you’re not rewarded with the tiniest sign you’ll get what you want.  You’ve got to visualise your negative thoughts like weeds: catch them the second they plop through the mind and pull them out before they can take root.

From today, when a negative thought that belongs to your past comes to dig its nails in your skull, tell it that it’s no longer welcome and you’re done with it. Delete it from your mind by saying aloud ‘DELETE.’ Do not allow it to drag you into pity, sorrow or defeat. Whatever it wants to remind you of say –  ‘That was yesterday. Today I am brand new.  Visualise grabbing the negative thought by the root and tossing it out of your field.

The second you hear yourself think ‘I can’t do that?. How will I survive? What will become of me? No one wants me’... pull out those rotten weeds. Plant positive new seeds

Imagine your brain has been fitted with a brand new recording device which has the power to bring into your life all you dream of. Remember that the tape is new so has nothing written on it.  It has no memory regarding your past beliefs. Whatever you record when you switch it on, will create the future that awaits you.  From today, you are going to switch it on consciously for half an hour every day.

Ready?

Then, let’s switch it on….

Record a cherished goal i.e.  I am about to be a tremendous success in my career

OR… Money comes to me in miraculous ways

OR… I am loved by and love the right partner for me.

The moment a negative thought creeps in to disrupt your want, rewind the tape immediately and say DELETE.  Replace the negative thought with a positive correction, i.e. Good news is on its way. Say KEEP.

Get used to your days feeling like a ping pong match between DELETE and KEEP. Keep the KEEP side healthy and strong.

Your aim during your daily recording sessions is to become a conscious observer of how thoughts dictate outcome. As this exercise takes root, you’ll find you are there to ‘listen in’ for longer periods and that saying Delete and Keep will become automatic…in the same way driving a car becomes automatic when the rules have been stored in the mind.

Practise in the DELETE/KEEP stakes will ensure your personal brain robot takes over at the wheel so you have ample time to keep planting positive new seeds. Start practicing today and in a month’s time, this method of dismissing negative thoughts will become second nature…

… and the first of your buds could be ready to flower.

 

Jaylen Grace is the author of Omtopia (7 steps to enlightenment)   Omzak The Space Cat Warrior.  Porridge The Two Faced Parrot.

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Omtopia by Jaylen Grace

Omtopia by Jaylen Grace

 

 

 

 

 

The Subject Tonight is Love

The Subject Tonight is Love

My wish is for more love to fill the world and for couples to feel more loving kindness in their hearts.

 

This poem by Hafiz, which has been translated here by Daniel Ladinsky says it all.  It is called

‘It happens all the time in heaven’

It happens all the time in heaven and some day

It will begin to happen again on earth

That men and women who are married, and men and women who are lovers

And women and women who give each other light

Often will get down on their knees

And while so tenderly holding their lover’s hand

With tears in their eyes, will sincerely speak, saying

‘My dear, How can I be more loving to you –

How can I be more kind?’

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Deep meditation to open the heart

If you wish to feel connected to the whole, here is a meditation to help you transform feelings of suffering to a conscious understanding that it is up to us whether or not we wither or thrive heart-wise.   I know how much pain you’ve felt – how misunderstood and lonely you have felt. Take heart, for when you truly love yourself, nothing can kill your spirit. You will become stronger, not only because forgiveness 3730761will become a natural part of you, it will heal you in the process.       Make yourself comfortable.  Do this meditation with me now:

Imagine that you are deep in a forest, your back resting against the trunk of a big, old tree.  A tree that has been there for hundreds of years, watching families come and go, watching babies being born, watching people fight, make love, grow old and die.

Feel yourself as being part of that tree, observing life as it observes it. No attachment to anything. It stays strong through the storms, knowing they will pass and loves all who sit under it equally. It accepts the person who takes its

 

 

fruit. It accepts the person who comes to chop down its trunk, because its roots are strong beneath the earth, and not even a fire can stop its growth, or a hurricane shatter its resolve to see its branches heave with fruit again some day. Imagine that the tree you’re sitting under, looks over a lotus pond, and in the middle of the pond, sits one proud purple lotus flower which has found its way through the mud. You can smell the fragrance of the lotus flower, drifting on the breeze as the branches of the tree fans its perfume in your direction. Take a deep breath. Allow this fragrance into your heart and as you watch, become aware that the purple lotus flower is shimmering with gold. Gold shimmers all around it like a silk spider’s web. See it caught in the sunlight as it starts to rotate like a wheel.

 The more you allow your heart to open, the bigger the rotating wheel becomes, drawing you into the divine where there is freedom from the obstacles in life. The tree and lotus flower, working together, draw you deeper into this vortex of spinning purple and gold energy, filling you with their wisdom and grateful acceptance of life. 

You start to feel gratitude flooding your heart for whatever you have in your life, and as gratitude floods it, you are swept inside a vortex of spinning purple and gold which begins to vibrate around you. Breathing into this energy, your energy field expands and your beautiful, shiny aura, fills the forest. You can see yourself, a capsule of golden light, sitting in the middle of a forest, where everything’s a part of the divine and nothing is judged. 

Breathing out, expand your energy field. Breathing in, breathe in the wisdom of the universe. Breathing out, let go of your conditioned beliefs, the pain, sadness and frustration you feel. Breathing in, breathe more light into your being. Feel your heart expanding. Feel pulsating purple light, penetrating each of your chakras. Visualise your purple lotus flower opening petal by petal and when all the petals are open, breathe this purple consciousness into your heart.  Feel the feeling of love for yourself wash over you.  Let go of everything else.  None of it is real and will pass. Love yourself and you will thrive and never wither.

 

 Jaylen Grace is the author of Omzak, Porridge and Omtopia.  She has been a Reiki master and spiritual life coach for over thirty years   www.jaylengrace.com  @jaylengrace

 

 

 

 

My time with The Rolling Stones….by Jaylen Grace

You’ll remember we left blog One of my life with the Rolling Stones (read here if you ish:)   http://www.jaylengrace.com/854/ with me in Keith Richards country house, and his partner staring up at me as she enquired whether I’d like a cup of Earl Grey.

Her name was Anita Pallenberg….Keith was always my favourite Stone – although if I bumped into him in the street I doubt he’d know me from Adam. Even that day as I walked around his house marking items he wanted to take to France (where he’d become a tax exile and where the Stones would write Exile on Main Street) he asked me who I was. Only the week before we’d had a long discussion about Howling Wolf in the office – but those were heady times. Hard drugs were the norm. Enough said.

What I haven’t yet disclosed; which played a major role in why I switched  from the zizz and glamour of Rock N’ Roll to embrace a holistic/spiritual path a few years later, was partly due to a profound experience I had when I was 16. I won’t go into details because there’s still too much to share about my time in the music business. However, basically I was involved in a horrific car accident and pronounced dead. I clearly remember seeing my friends crowded around the bloody mess of my remains. They were crying because my heart had stopped beating. I was looking down on myself and saying words to the effect ‘I’m too young to die. I insist on being brought back to life!’

How I got back into my body is a heavenly mystery, but three minutes later I started breathing again. The only reason I mention it now is because it brings back a memory of Keith’s son (Marlon) who was about two.  After my ‘death’ experience,

 

I took up daily meditation. The morning after I stayed over at Keith’s place I was meditating in the garden when Marlon came running out and plonked himself on my lap. I turned my meditation into one he could join in with – a study of insects and their enthusiastic single-minded determination.  When Marlon began collecting ants and joyfully munching them, I felt it only proper to report this back to Keith.  Laughing his head off, Keith dismissed it with: ‘If he likes eating ants, let him get on with it!’

Five months into my six month PA position with the Stones, Thomas from Mykonos – the guy I’d fallen passionately in love with – With the intense brown eyes, sparkly white teeth who danced like a Greek God -  turned up in London. He’d booked a hotel in Bayswater for the weekend to surprise me. As I rushed from the office to fly into his arms (wearing my white silk floor length Ossie Clark wrap dress), Mick (Jagger) called to ask if I wanted to stay on and help with the running of their new record label, Rolling Stones Records.

Rolling Stones Records fell under the Atlantic label. Atlantic was part of the most famous record conglomerate of that time which was known as WEA (Warner, Electra, Atlantic) –To give you a taste of just a few of the artists on those labels in 1971, think… Aretha Franklyn, Led Zeppelin, The Eagles, Fleetwood Mac, The Allman Brothers, The Doobie Brothers, Neil Young, James Taylor, Van Morrison – and, and and…

Even though 75% of me was still living the dream of being Thomas’s wife, the offer of working among such amazing music icons hung there like Eve’s apple, tempting me to bite into it.  I think you can guess what happened when I saw Thomas again. The illusion I’d built up around us crumbled.  He was shorter than I remembered, the bright yellow shirt that looked stunning when he’d worn it in Mykonos looked cringeworthy in London, the fact he couldn’t speak English irked – and the vision of me scrubbing clothes clean with a washing board, suddenly held the appeal of a bucket of scummy water.

Troubled and confused, I told Thomas of the promotion and asked his advice.

‘We made a deal,’ he said. ‘You either come to Greece next month to marry me or it’s over.’

Every time we made love I was thrown into turmoil. Would I ever feel again what I felt in Thomas’s arms? Would I ever feel what I felt when he kissed me, and his eyes locked into my soul?  I remember we both cried a lot. I remember the pain of saying goodbye because intuitively we both knew what my decision would be.

Six weeks later I was installed in my new office in New Oxford Street. On the very first day I was out on the terrace having a ciggy break when Alice Cooper came out weighed down by gold chains and his trademark black-kohl clown’s eyes to join me for a chat. Any artist who came over from the USA stopped by the Stones office even when the Stones weren’t there. Rubbing shoulders with the likes of Robert Plant or James Taylor became as normal as talking to the local milkman.

However, the most thrilling thing for me turned out to be a guy (who unbeknown to me), sometimes stayed in a restaurant on the corner of our street. I used to run in occasionally to grab a take away and chat merrily to the Greek owner. On one such day, Cat Stevens came out of the kitchen. My eyes blinked in disbelief. What was HE doing there???? Cat was my BIG music crush. I knew every word of  his songs. I was besotted by him. ‘This is my son Steve,’ the owner said to me. ‘And this is Stella,’ he said to Cat. ‘She works for the Stones in WEA. You should be friends. She’s Greek. Why we don’t invite her to eat with us?’ My heart did twelve somersaults. I held my breath. Cat smiled politely but said nothing….and there that story ends…

However little did I know that soon I’d fall head over heels in love with the world’s sexiest tenor saxophone player, find myself on a crazy tour with Black Sabbath (and vomited on by Ozzy Osbourne), or change my style from designer clothes to embroidered skirts and wear flowers in my head. This was ‘Flower Power’ time (rooted in the opposition movement to the Vietnamese war), and proved a decade like no other in ways I could never have predicted

To be continued…

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HOW I REACHED NO. 1 SPOT ON AMAZON!!! Halleluyah…

Jaylen GraceSECRETS FROM UNKNOWN AUTHOR WHO RACED INTO NO.1 SPOT ON AMAZON THIS WEEK

Reaching the Number One slot for Three Faces of Sex on Amazon this week was another fulfilling moment in my life – firstly for me as the unknown horse in the race who charged past the favourites to cross the winning line – and secondly for every other unknown out there who seeks proof that when unshakable self belief is applied to practical nut-and-bolt thinking and steps, everything in God’s world is achievable.

You’ll know if you followed my series of Self Publishing blogs.  that I promised to show you how you could make money self publishing. You will also know about my earlier claim to fame for a book I wrote which is currently selling for $350 on the internet!   The irony of that story is that I didn’t make a penny – but today I’m ready to share with you the components that comprised my CONSCIOUS journey to the No. 1 slot on Amazon and to tell you how to keep the momentum going when new horses start galloping past to claim your throne.

As a long standing international life coach who has spent the past 30 years helping others realise their dreams, the first thing I want to say to YOU is that you can do anything you set your mind to. The reason why some never see their dreams become reality is because their goals are too fuzzy, so let’s blow fuzziness out the back door and make our priority CLEAR GOAL VISUALISATION.   In this case, we’ll apply the principles I used for Three Faces of Sex so that more of you unknown authors can bask in the glow of reaching No.1 position in the charts.

If this blog was about how to find a soul-mate/life partner, I could offer you techniques that have often been known to take root within a miraculously short time.  However, getting a book into the top three requires at least a year’s prep work.  Rather than going through it step by step and wasting paper space, please read at least a couple of my self-publishing blogs and we’ll move on from there.

So, assuming you have a great website that attracts regular visitors, have spent time building up your following on Facebook, Twitter and Linkedin, have written regular blogs so that you’re not a complete unknown to the world, let’s fast forward to six weeks before publication of your ebook when:  Your book cover has been designed, the blurb for back cover sorted and you’re ready to hand your work to a publisher who can also help you with the marketing side of things.

Since for Three Faces of Sex, I wanted to showcase the most inexpensive way of gaining global recognision for your work so that even those with limited funds could join the race, I chose Publish Nation as my publisher. Their editor proof read and formatted book to best effect for £95. The cost of publishing ebook was £95 and the marketing deal for free Kindle download weekend on Amazon was £95.

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I’m Famous For A Book I Never Made A Penny From!

I’m Famous For A Book I Never Made A Penny From!

With the publication of my latest book – Three Faces Of Sex – (a lovemaking manual which explores the benefits of open-minded, honest, loving communication), I thought I’d share this snippet about Three Face’s predecessor and how I’ve become famous without making a penny from writing that earlier book.

In the nineties I wrote a book called Gourmet Recipes for Sexual Fantasies. I visualised it as a great Valentine’s gift.  It consisted of twelve saucy (but tastefully written) fantasy scenarios for couples to re-enact when lovemaking began to feel like stale bread. (Three of these fantasy scenarios are in Three Faces Of Sex).

My then partnership-publisher allotted me an illustrator whose work I sadly loathed and to cut the story short I refused to pay the balance I owed until I’d been given an illustrator I approved of.

In the meantime, the highly successful yoga, health and mind-empowering centre I had in Glyfada (Greece) was reduced to rubble by a rock slide. All my work, and my beloved typewriter, was destroyed with the rest of my possessions.  The fate of Gourmet Recipes slipped from my mind as I spent the following year fighting to get compensation from my insurance company. This proved a waste of effort.

Simultaneously I was faced with another dilemma… My life savings plan which I’d invested through my financial advisor in Japan in dollars had slid to a quarter of its value! Deciding to bite the bullet I took the meagre sum that remained to start over (and if you’re beginning  to feel uneasy about the outcome please don’t, with God’s love, support and my positive input I turned my fortune around – not for the first – and possibly not for the last time!)

Fast forwarding into the 2000’s, you can imagine my surprise when one day, out of the blue, my daughter said: ‘Mum, I didn’t know you had a cult hit book on Amazon?’

I laughed and said ‘I wish!’

‘But you do,’ she insisted. ‘There’s a bidding war going on over the remaining few books. My friend Mark bought a copy for $80.’

I pinched myself. I WAS awake. ‘What’s the name of the book?’ I asked.

‘Gourmet Recipes For Sexual Fantasies,’

By this time I owned a laptop so I checked. And there it was.  An unpaid ‘job lot’ that no longer belonged to me because I hadn’t finished paying my dues to the publishing company. Someone was selling a copy for $130.  I bought it before it was snapped up.

Last time I looked, someone was selling a copy for $350!

Why this is happening with Gourmet Recipes only He who sits laughing in the sky cropped-jaylenlogo1.jpgknows. If this is my claim to fame, so be it.  Many, far more talented than I, have died without recognition. The way things are going Gourmet Recipes could become as expensive as a Rembrandt (lol).

Let’s laugh together because who knows how and when fame might come to any of us….

Find out more about Stella Ralfini at www.stellaralfini.com  and @stellaralfini  (Twitter).